It’s wedding season in Utah. (Well, anytime of year is wedding season in Utah, but in summer there’s an uptick in numbers.)
At this point in my life, not too many of my friends are getting married. There are some second marriages, but most everyone I know has been married for a while now. No, now my friends’ kids are getting hitched.
The question for me as a divorce attorney becomes: “What should I get these newlyweds that will help them in their married lives?”
My stock answer, and, subsequently, my stock gift is a copy of Dave Ramsey’s The Total Money Makeover.
Yep, I get them a book about money and finances. More specifically, The Total Money Makeover is a step-by-step how-to for getting out of debt and building wealth.
So, why this totally unsexy, boring gift? Well, there are a few reasons based on what we’ve observed over the years:
- Couples without debt tend not to get divorced.
Dave Ramsey preaches the gospel of no debt. What we’ve found it when couples don’t have debt, they tend not to get divorced. When there’s no debt, there’s less stress, which means fewer fights, which usually translates to happier marriages.
- Working together on finances brings couples closer together.
There’s an old adage that reads: “The family that prays together stays together.” (Research backs up that adage, by the way.)
What we’ve found is that families that budget together stay together. Maybe it’s because budgeting helps couples work together on common goals. Maybe it’s because budgeting forces couples to define their principles, talk about them regularly, and act on them. Maybe it’s because people who budget tend to have less debts, which decreases stress. And maybe it’s all of these things. Who knows for sure? I just know it works.
- Building wealth translates to stronger families.
In his brilliant autobiography, Standing Up, the comedian Steve Martin noted: “I’ve been poor and I’ve been rich. Rich is better.”
Creating wealth, on average, really does help couples stay together. You may not think so because of celebrity divorces, but those are the exceptions. Couples who work together to build wealth are usually pretty happy with their lives and marriages.
- If you get on the same page at the beginning of your marriage, the likelihood having a successful long-term marriage goes up dramatically.
This goes back to #2. If you are on the same page financially, you are more likely to be happy in your marriage and stay married.
And if you can get on the same page financially (which usually translates in to being on the same page morally, physically, etc.) at the beginning of your marriage, you’re chances of having a lasting, loving long-term marriage increases. The sooner you start working together as one in all aspects of your marriage, the better.
There You Go
So, there you go. That’s the gift I, as a Utah divorce attorney, give newlyweds. In the end, boring is good.
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